7 Reflective Questions to Help You Reset, Refocus, and Evolve
- Kris Abesamis
- Jun 10
- 4 min read
Life moves fast. You reach one goal and quickly start chasing the next. But somewhere along the way, you might stop and wonder, “Is this still right for me?”
Whether you’re considering your career or craving more meaning in your life, asking the right questions is essential for achieving meaningful personal development. It’s how you gain clarity, reconnect with purpose, and evolve with intention.
Here are seven questions that can help you reconnect with your values, rediscover your purpose, and decide what comes next.

1. How Have Your Past Experiences Shaped Your Current Values?
Every step you’ve taken—good or bad—has helped shape the person you are today. Maybe a tough job taught you resilience. Maybe a supportive mentor showed you the value of kindness. These experiences helped define what matters most to you now.
Try this: Write down a few significant moments in your life. What did each one teach you? What values came out of those lessons?
2. What’s Missing—or Overflowing—in Your Life Right Now?
It’s easy to focus on doing more, but sometimes, we need less pressure, noise, and busyness. On the other hand, something important, such as connection or creativity, may be missing.
Ask yourself: Where do I feel empty? Where do I feel overwhelmed?
3. Are the Strengths You’ve Always Counted on Still Helping You?
You likely have a few go-to strengths, such as working hard, staying positive, or helping others. But here’s the thing: what used to work might not work anymore. It might be holding you back.
For example, being driven is great—until it leads to burnout. Helping others is wonderful—until you forget to help yourself.
Reframe it: What strength might need a new direction or a softer approach?
4. What Do You Truly Want Beyond Titles or Paychecks?
A promotion can feel great, but is it really what you want? Over time, your definition of success may have changed. Maybe now, success looks more like balance, freedom, or understanding the true meaning of life on your terms, not society’s. Reflecting on how to find your purpose can reshape what success means to you. Take our free Personal Values Quiz to identify the values that drive your decisions. Understanding what truly matters to you is the first step in redefining success on your terms.
Try this: Imagine your perfect day. What are you doing? Who are you with? How much of that day matches your current life?
5. Are You Staying Busy to Avoid Something Deeper?
Let’s be honest, being busy can feel like progress. But sometimes, it’s just a distraction. When we’re always “on,” we don’t give ourselves time to feel what’s happening inside.
Check-in: When was the last time you sat still, without your phone, with no to-do list, to be alone with your thoughts?
6. Are You Taking Time to Reflect and Reset?
Change doesn’t happen by accident. If you don’t create space for self-reflection, you’ll keep repeating the same habits—even the ones that aren’t helping.
Suggestion: Set aside just 15 minutes each week to check in with yourself. Journal, take a walk, or breathe. Make it a non-negotiable appointment—just like a meeting at work.
7. What Would You Choose If You Fully Honored Who You Are Today?
It’s one thing to ask deep questions—it’s another to act on the insights they bring. Evolution doesn’t require grand reinventions. It begins when you choose to be intentional, making small, meaningful shifts that align your everyday life with your current values and aspirations.

Here’s how to begin:
1. Understand Where You Are
When considering how to improve yourself, the first step is always awareness. Before you can move forward, you need to understand where you are. You can’t shift what you haven’t named. Here are a few self-discovery quizzes to help you start:
Life Satisfaction Quiz – Gauge how fulfilled you feel across different areas of life.
Personal Values Quiz – Clarify what truly matters to you and drives your decisions.
Talents Identifier Quiz – Discover your natural strengths and unique abilities.
2. Get Honest About What Matters Most
You’ve changed—and so have your priorities. Maybe what once felt urgent no longer feels important. Now is the time to reconnect with what you value, not just what you’ve been chasing. Take the free Personal Values quiz to find out what matters most.
3. Know Where You’re Headed
You don’t need a five-year plan, but you do need a clear direction. What kind of life feels meaningful to you now? When you define success on your terms, you begin building a purpose-driven life—one that’s fulfilling, not just impressive.
4. Prioritize What Aligns, Release What Doesn’t
Not everything can come with you into your next chapter. You have permission to let go of outdated obligations, relationships, or the need for external validation. Your time, energy, and attention are precious. Use them wisely.

5. Make Reflection a Habit, Not a Hurdle
Understanding yourself is an ongoing practice. Set aside time regularly to reconnect with your values, notice shifts in your goals, and course-correct with intention. Checking in with yourself is how you evolve—with clarity, not chaos.
6. Choose Progress Over Perfection
You don’t have to have it all figured out. Embracing a growth mindset means allowing yourself to experiment, learn from missteps, and grow through experience. Explore a new interest, say no to something out of alignment, or make space for curiosity. Growth doesn’t require a five-year plan, it just needs movement.
7. Surround Yourself with Growth-Minded People
The people around you shape what you believe is possible. Seek out those who support your growth, ask thought-provoking questions, and hold you accountable with kindness.
Bonus Tip: Make personal growth effortless. Download the My Talents app! Explore free self-discovery quizzes and get instant support from Erica, your friendly AI companion. Whether you're uncovering your strengths or setting new goals, Erica guides you every step of the way.
Takeaways
You are constantly growing. You’re not the person you were last year—or even last month. That’s why it’s so important to pause and ask, “Am I still on the right path for the person I’ve become?” You don’t need all the answers right now. But asking the right questions is a decisive first step.